Dating Apps: Chance To Find Love, Or An Exercise In Self-Harm?

Dating apps aren't built for lesbians. They're not built for straight people, either, but that's another story. What they are built for is to make money. If you do manage to find love, it's because their system failed. 

Now for the Big Caveat™. Yes, lesbians do find love on dating apps. And I'm happy for them. I've even had some good experiences myself. 

But if you're a lesbian in her 20s, and you're using the apps, you should know: if you find love on a dating app, it's because you got lucky.  

Further, your outcome was not a success story. In fact, your love story is actually an example of the app failing to do what it was designed to do. Here's why. 

5 "Secret" Places To Find Lesbians In 2023

I wrote another blog post about why it's so hard for lesbians to find each other, but I'm going to assume you're tired of hearing about the problem. 

Further, I'm going to assume you're tired of:

• swiping on Tinder and seeing another couple looking for a unicorn
• being the sole lesbian at your local gay bar
• wondering where your soulmate is and why she's so late
• daydreaming about having lesbian friends
• seeing awesome lesbians on Reddit, Youtube and Tiktok (who live on the other side of the country) 

In 2023, the million dollar question is: Where are the lesbians? 

Invariably, the lesbians always seem to be geo-located... far away from us. 

But it doesn't have to be this way. You can find the lesbians. But only if you know where to look. 

For your lesbian-locating needs, I've curated a short list of the 5 best "secret" places to find lesbians in 2023.